Before I met her, partners were sparring, friction, sparks flying. She walked into my life and somehow it became a glide. Her hands just felt right, you know? That feeling of just being, of existing in the world with someone who is the right vibe for you. That is her…

Brave. That’s what they like to call us, brave. What is it to be brave in the coming out, to express yourself, birdlike, soaring into the empty space where once was closet? Is it brave to self-accept and step one foot in front of another into an uncertain future? It…

Getting old is weird, as in I caught myself looking at pictures of my 19-year-old self and realised just how far 39-year-old me has come. My young self did not eat right, was slim to the point needs to eat a decent meal, and while the pictures rocked, were a…

Being part of the in-group, assimilated into society, is an aspirational goal of many folk who choose to transition from their assigned gender at birth. It is seen as a path to security, well-being, and freedom from the wider societal pressures that assail anyone who steps into the gender hinterland…

It is in the quiet moments when the thoughts come rushing in. Titanic like they overwhelm the bulkheads, slowly slowly until ballast no longer holds and down we go. In the moment where inner voices drown out reason and sanity slowly becomes a torrent until deep down the bottom hits…

Last week I got my second covid jab and the nurse asked if I was pregnant. Not the first time, and probably will not be the last. I said something along the lines of my girlfriend may have something to say about that, then answered no. I was a little…

In the 23 years since I really started digging into what it meant to be trans via the nascent internet, several things kept cropping up that made me distinctly uncomfortable. One was the hyper feminisation that many trans women invariably do when they start to transition, and the other was…

After my recent article discussing OnlyFans economics a couple of people picked up on the apparent contradiction between my declared sex positivity and the note I struck in the article. I think their critique is valid, and it made me think about how even a seemingly neutral tone can be…

We often hear about the poverty that comes hand in hand with transition and coming out. Over lock down I have seen an increasing number of young trans women on Reddit and Twitter using their profiles to promote OnlyFans accounts, Patron, and other image based social media. Indeed, especially on…